Self-Reflection in Relationships
METAReflect on their own role and behaviour in relationships — recognising patterns in how they interact with others, understanding what they contribute to friendships, and identifying areas where they could improve as a friend or team member
Mastery Evidence
- Identify a pattern in their own social behaviour, such as always wanting to lead or avoiding confrontation
- Describe what they do well in relationships and one area they'd like to improve
- Set a specific social goal, such as 'I will ask others for their ideas before sharing mine'
Assessment Prompt
“Can [child] honestly reflect on their friendships and say something like 'I think I sometimes take over in group work and I'm trying to listen more' — showing awareness of their own social patterns?”
Curriculum Standards2 alignments
PSPE.INT.P4.CU.2IB PYP Personal, Social and Physical Education (PSPE) Scope and Sequencecodes onlyPSPE.INT.P4.LO.1IB PYP Personal, Social and Physical Education (PSPE) Scope and Sequencecodes onlyPrerequisites4
- Giving and Receiving FeedbacksoftAges 9—11
- Patterns in Your Own ReactionssoftAges 7—9
- Your Impact on OtherssoftAges 8—9
- Assertive CommunicationhardAges 9—11
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- Communication Vocabulary soft
Constructive feedback uses vocabulary from assertive communication and conflict resolution
- Communication Vocabulary soft
Working effectively in groups draws on vocabulary like 'cooperate', 'compromise', and 'conflict'
- Vocabulary: working with others hard
Taking turns and sharing cooperatively requires vocabulary like 'cooperate', 'take turns', and 'include'
- Listening and responding soft
Effective small-group collaboration requires the foundational listening skill of attending to others and following discussion rules developed in Speaking & Listening
- Exploring Ideas Through Talk soft
Conversational skills provide foundation for evaluating viewpoints
- Feeling of not understanding soft
Using talk to explore ideas and speculate requires noticing what you don't yet understand — the comprehension-monitoring habit in a spoken register
- Asking for Help hard
Noticing confusion and acting on it requires already knowing that asking for help is a valid response to being stuck
- Listening and responding soft
SEL listening skills build on curriculum speaking & listening foundations
- Vocabulary: working with others hard
Active listening practice requires understanding the vocabulary of listening, agreeing, and disagreeing respectfully
- Vocabulary: resilience and self hard
Positive self-talk practice requires knowing the term 'self-talk' and distinguishing it from intrusive negative thoughts
- Naming Basic Emotions soft
Calming strategies benefit from naming the emotion you're trying to manage
- Words for Big Feelings hard
Calming strategies (calm, breathe, settle) rely on knowing this vocabulary to name and apply the techniques
- Emotion Vocabulary soft
Self-talk benefits from wider emotion vocabulary to name what you're feeling
- Vocabulary: resilience and self hard
The growth mindset concept requires understanding the vocabulary pair 'growth mindset' vs 'fixed mindset'
- Learning from Mistakes hard
Growth mindset builds on understanding mistakes as learning opportunities
- Words for Big Feelings soft
Framing mistakes as learning uses the vocabulary of feelings management and coping with setback
- Making Sense of Problems soft
Growth mindset understanding (SEL) is grounded in the concrete experience of persevering through mathematical problems — the abstract principle is made real through mathematics
- Checking Your Own Work soft
Checking whether a maths answer makes sense applies the universal self-checking habit to a mathematical context
- How Many in Total? soft
Problem sense-making at 5-6 requires cardinality understanding to make sense of 'how many' problems
- One-to-one counting hard
Cardinality principle builds on one-to-one correspondence — you must count correctly to know the last number tells 'how many'
- Listening to Texts Read Aloud soft
Making sense of word problems requires listening comprehension skills
- Addition as combining or putting together two soft
Making sense of addition problems requires understanding addition as combining
- How Many in Total? hard
Understanding addition as combining groups requires knowing numbers represent quantities (cardinality)
- One-to-one counting hard
Cardinality principle builds on one-to-one correspondence — you must count correctly to know the last number tells 'how many'
- Persisting When It's Hard soft
Mathematical perseverance with problems is the domain-specific application of the universal persistence habit
- Communication Vocabulary hard
Assertive communication requires understanding the trio: assertive vs passive vs aggressive
- Resolving Disagreements with Friends hard
Assertive communication builds on basic conflict resolution
- Communication Vocabulary hard
Resolving disagreements requires vocabulary for conflict, resolution, and compromise
- Vocabulary: working with others soft
Understanding what makes a good friend draws on cooperation and inclusion vocabulary
- Expressing Feelings with Words soft
Resolving disagreements benefits from expressing feelings in words
- Triggers and Causes of Feelings soft
Expressing feelings in words benefits from understanding triggers
- Naming Basic Emotions soft
Calming strategies benefit from naming the emotion you're trying to manage
- Words for Big Feelings hard
Calming strategies (calm, breathe, settle) rely on knowing this vocabulary to name and apply the techniques
- Group discussions soft
Resolving disagreements through conversation requires the collaborative speaking skills — staying on topic, building on others' contributions — from Speaking & Listening
- Exploring Ideas Through Talk soft
Conversational skills provide foundation for evaluating viewpoints
- Feeling of not understanding soft
Using talk to explore ideas and speculate requires noticing what you don't yet understand — the comprehension-monitoring habit in a spoken register
- Asking for Help hard
Noticing confusion and acting on it requires already knowing that asking for help is a valid response to being stuck
- Listening and responding soft
SEL listening skills build on curriculum speaking & listening foundations
- Vocabulary: working with others hard
Active listening practice requires understanding the vocabulary of listening, agreeing, and disagreeing respectfully
- Engaging Listeners and Valuing Viewpoints soft
Giving feedback benefits from evaluating viewpoints and building on contributions
- Teaching It Back soft
Building on others' contributions in discussion requires being able to articulate your own thinking — the self-explanation habit applied in a social context
- Explaining Mathematical Reasoning soft
The universal self-explanation habit (LtL 7-8) builds on the maths-specific practice of explaining reasoning when prompted (MT 6-7)
- Showing Your Working hard
Age 6-7 explaining with diagrams/logic builds on age 5-6 showing and telling with objects
- Numbers up to 10 into pairs soft
Explaining part-part-whole decompositions exercises showing and telling
- Addition as combining or putting together two hard
Decomposing numbers into pairs requires understanding addition as combining
- How Many in Total? hard
Understanding addition as combining groups requires knowing numbers represent quantities (cardinality)
- One-to-one counting hard
Cardinality principle builds on one-to-one correspondence — you must count correctly to know the last number tells 'how many'
- Number bonds to 9 soft
Explaining how to find number bonds to 10 exercises showing thinking with objects
- Numbers up to 10 into pairs hard
Making 10 is a specific application of decomposing numbers into pairs
- Addition as combining or putting together two hard
Decomposing numbers into pairs requires understanding addition as combining
- How Many in Total? hard
Understanding addition as combining groups requires knowing numbers represent quantities (cardinality)
- One-to-one counting hard
Cardinality principle builds on one-to-one correspondence — you must count correctly to know the last number tells 'how many'
- Listening and responding soft
Explaining mathematical reasoning orally requires basic listening and responding skills
- What the equals sign means soft
Determining whether equations are true/false exercises evaluating and justifying
- Reading +, −, and = symbols hard
Deep understanding of = requires already being able to read and write number sentences
- Reading and writing numbers to 20 hard
Writing number sentences requires reading and writing numerals
- How Many in Total? hard
Reading/writing numerals 0–20 requires understanding that numerals represent quantities (cardinality)
- One-to-one counting hard
Cardinality principle builds on one-to-one correspondence — you must count correctly to know the last number tells 'how many'
- Writing digits 0-9 hard
Writing numerals requires the motor skill of forming digits 0-9 (taught in English handwriting)
- Addition as combining or putting together two hard
Reading/writing the + symbol requires understanding what addition means
- How Many in Total? hard
Understanding addition as combining groups requires knowing numbers represent quantities (cardinality)
- One-to-one counting hard
Cardinality principle builds on one-to-one correspondence — you must count correctly to know the last number tells 'how many'
- Subtraction as taking away or separating hard
Reading/writing the − symbol requires understanding what subtraction means
- How Many in Total? hard
Understanding subtraction as taking away requires knowing numbers represent quantities (cardinality)
- One-to-one counting hard
Cardinality principle builds on one-to-one correspondence — you must count correctly to know the last number tells 'how many'
- Addition as combining or putting together two hard
Understanding commutativity of addition requires understanding addition
- How Many in Total? hard
Understanding addition as combining groups requires knowing numbers represent quantities (cardinality)
- One-to-one counting hard
Cardinality principle builds on one-to-one correspondence — you must count correctly to know the last number tells 'how many'
- Thinking Before Starting hard
Explaining in your own words requires connecting new learning to existing knowledge already held in mind
- Persisting When It's Hard hard
Activating prior knowledge requires the foundational habit of persistent engagement with new material
- Exploring Ideas Through Talk soft
Conversational skills provide foundation for evaluating viewpoints
- Feeling of not understanding soft
Using talk to explore ideas and speculate requires noticing what you don't yet understand — the comprehension-monitoring habit in a spoken register
- Asking for Help hard
Noticing confusion and acting on it requires already knowing that asking for help is a valid response to being stuck
- Expressing & Justifying Opinions soft
Oral expression skills support understanding formality in speech
- Exploring Ideas Through Talk soft
Conversational skills provide foundation for evaluating viewpoints
- Feeling of not understanding soft
Using talk to explore ideas and speculate requires noticing what you don't yet understand — the comprehension-monitoring habit in a spoken register
- Asking for Help hard
Noticing confusion and acting on it requires already knowing that asking for help is a valid response to being stuck
- Patterns in Your Own Reactions soft
Recognising patterns in how you interact with others is the Friendship domain-specific form of the foundational pattern-noticing habit
- Vocabulary: self hard
Noticing own patterns requires vocabulary of 'pattern', 'trigger', and 'reflect'
- Feelings Versus Actions hard
Noticing patterns in your reactions requires first understanding that feelings and responses are separable — you can only track a pattern once you're aware of the gap between feeling and action
- Naming Your Feelings hard
Understanding that feelings and actions are separate requires first being able to name and identify what you are feeling
- Vocabulary: self hard
Noticing and naming feelings requires the basic vocabulary of self-awareness and reflection
- Feeling of not understanding soft
Naming what you are feeling is emotional comprehension monitoring — the universal habit of noticing what's happening inside applied to emotional experience
- Asking for Help hard
Noticing confusion and acting on it requires already knowing that asking for help is a valid response to being stuck
- Vocabulary: self hard
Understanding the feelings-actions separation requires vocabulary to distinguish and name each component
- Spotting Patterns soft
Noticing recurring patterns in your own reactions is the PSD form of the universal pattern-recognition habit
- Connecting New & Old Ideas soft
Spotting patterns across domains is an extension of the habit of connecting new ideas to existing ones
- Thinking Before Starting hard
Making connections between new and old ideas requires the habit of activating prior knowledge first
- Persisting When It's Hard hard
Activating prior knowledge requires the foundational habit of persistent engagement with new material
- Your Impact on Others soft
Reflecting on your role and behaviour in relationships builds on the foundational habit of considering the impact of your behaviour on others
- Teaching It Back soft
Reflecting on how your behaviour landed on others requires being able to articulate your own thinking and intentions clearly — the self-explanation habit applied to social experience
- Explaining Mathematical Reasoning soft
The universal self-explanation habit (LtL 7-8) builds on the maths-specific practice of explaining reasoning when prompted (MT 6-7)
- Showing Your Working hard
Age 6-7 explaining with diagrams/logic builds on age 5-6 showing and telling with objects
- Numbers up to 10 into pairs soft
Explaining part-part-whole decompositions exercises showing and telling
- Addition as combining or putting together two hard
Decomposing numbers into pairs requires understanding addition as combining
- How Many in Total? hard
Understanding addition as combining groups requires knowing numbers represent quantities (cardinality)
- One-to-one counting hard
Cardinality principle builds on one-to-one correspondence — you must count correctly to know the last number tells 'how many'
- Number bonds to 9 soft
Explaining how to find number bonds to 10 exercises showing thinking with objects
- Numbers up to 10 into pairs hard
Making 10 is a specific application of decomposing numbers into pairs
- Addition as combining or putting together two hard
Decomposing numbers into pairs requires understanding addition as combining
- How Many in Total? hard
Understanding addition as combining groups requires knowing numbers represent quantities (cardinality)
- One-to-one counting hard
Cardinality principle builds on one-to-one correspondence — you must count correctly to know the last number tells 'how many'
- Listening and responding soft
Explaining mathematical reasoning orally requires basic listening and responding skills
- What the equals sign means soft
Determining whether equations are true/false exercises evaluating and justifying
- Reading +, −, and = symbols hard
Deep understanding of = requires already being able to read and write number sentences
- Reading and writing numbers to 20 hard
Writing number sentences requires reading and writing numerals
- How Many in Total? hard
Reading/writing numerals 0–20 requires understanding that numerals represent quantities (cardinality)
- One-to-one counting hard
Cardinality principle builds on one-to-one correspondence — you must count correctly to know the last number tells 'how many'
- Writing digits 0-9 hard
Writing numerals requires the motor skill of forming digits 0-9 (taught in English handwriting)
- Addition as combining or putting together two hard
Reading/writing the + symbol requires understanding what addition means
- How Many in Total? hard
Understanding addition as combining groups requires knowing numbers represent quantities (cardinality)
- One-to-one counting hard
Cardinality principle builds on one-to-one correspondence — you must count correctly to know the last number tells 'how many'
- Subtraction as taking away or separating hard
Reading/writing the − symbol requires understanding what subtraction means
- How Many in Total? hard
Understanding subtraction as taking away requires knowing numbers represent quantities (cardinality)
- One-to-one counting hard
Cardinality principle builds on one-to-one correspondence — you must count correctly to know the last number tells 'how many'
- Addition as combining or putting together two hard
Understanding commutativity of addition requires understanding addition
- How Many in Total? hard
Understanding addition as combining groups requires knowing numbers represent quantities (cardinality)
- One-to-one counting hard
Cardinality principle builds on one-to-one correspondence — you must count correctly to know the last number tells 'how many'
- Thinking Before Starting hard
Explaining in your own words requires connecting new learning to existing knowledge already held in mind
- Persisting When It's Hard hard
Activating prior knowledge requires the foundational habit of persistent engagement with new material
- Vocabulary: self hard
Reflecting on impact on others requires vocabulary of 'impact', 'perspective', and 'reflect'
- Patterns in Your Own Reactions hard
Reflecting on the impact of your behaviour on others requires first having noticed patterns in your own reactions — you need self-knowledge before you can examine your social footprint
- Vocabulary: self hard
Noticing own patterns requires vocabulary of 'pattern', 'trigger', and 'reflect'
- Feelings Versus Actions hard
Noticing patterns in your reactions requires first understanding that feelings and responses are separable — you can only track a pattern once you're aware of the gap between feeling and action
- Naming Your Feelings hard
Understanding that feelings and actions are separate requires first being able to name and identify what you are feeling
- Vocabulary: self hard
Noticing and naming feelings requires the basic vocabulary of self-awareness and reflection
- Feeling of not understanding soft
Naming what you are feeling is emotional comprehension monitoring — the universal habit of noticing what's happening inside applied to emotional experience
- Asking for Help hard
Noticing confusion and acting on it requires already knowing that asking for help is a valid response to being stuck
- Vocabulary: self hard
Understanding the feelings-actions separation requires vocabulary to distinguish and name each component
- Spotting Patterns soft
Noticing recurring patterns in your own reactions is the PSD form of the universal pattern-recognition habit
- Connecting New & Old Ideas soft
Spotting patterns across domains is an extension of the habit of connecting new ideas to existing ones
- Thinking Before Starting hard
Making connections between new and old ideas requires the habit of activating prior knowledge first
- Persisting When It's Hard hard
Activating prior knowledge requires the foundational habit of persistent engagement with new material
- Feelings Versus Actions soft
Reflecting on impact requires understanding that your actions were choices, not automatic responses to feelings — the feelings/actions distinction underpins social accountability
- Naming Your Feelings hard
Understanding that feelings and actions are separate requires first being able to name and identify what you are feeling
- Vocabulary: self hard
Noticing and naming feelings requires the basic vocabulary of self-awareness and reflection
- Feeling of not understanding soft
Naming what you are feeling is emotional comprehension monitoring — the universal habit of noticing what's happening inside applied to emotional experience
- Asking for Help hard
Noticing confusion and acting on it requires already knowing that asking for help is a valid response to being stuck
- Vocabulary: self hard
Understanding the feelings-actions separation requires vocabulary to distinguish and name each component
- Vocabulary: resilience and self hard
Positive self-talk practice requires knowing the term 'self-talk' and distinguishing it from intrusive negative thoughts
- Naming Basic Emotions soft
Calming strategies benefit from naming the emotion you're trying to manage
- Words for Big Feelings hard
Calming strategies (calm, breathe, settle) rely on knowing this vocabulary to name and apply the techniques
- Emotion Vocabulary soft
Self-talk benefits from wider emotion vocabulary to name what you're feeling
- Vocabulary: resilience and self hard
The growth mindset concept requires understanding the vocabulary pair 'growth mindset' vs 'fixed mindset'
- Learning from Mistakes hard
Growth mindset builds on understanding mistakes as learning opportunities
- Words for Big Feelings soft
Framing mistakes as learning uses the vocabulary of feelings management and coping with setback
- Making Sense of Problems soft
Growth mindset understanding (SEL) is grounded in the concrete experience of persevering through mathematical problems — the abstract principle is made real through mathematics
- Checking Your Own Work soft
Checking whether a maths answer makes sense applies the universal self-checking habit to a mathematical context
- How Many in Total? soft
Problem sense-making at 5-6 requires cardinality understanding to make sense of 'how many' problems
- One-to-one counting hard
Cardinality principle builds on one-to-one correspondence — you must count correctly to know the last number tells 'how many'
- Listening to Texts Read Aloud soft
Making sense of word problems requires listening comprehension skills
- Addition as combining or putting together two soft
Making sense of addition problems requires understanding addition as combining
- How Many in Total? hard
Understanding addition as combining groups requires knowing numbers represent quantities (cardinality)
- One-to-one counting hard
Cardinality principle builds on one-to-one correspondence — you must count correctly to know the last number tells 'how many'
- Persisting When It's Hard soft
Mathematical perseverance with problems is the domain-specific application of the universal persistence habit
- Communication Vocabulary hard
Assertive communication requires understanding the trio: assertive vs passive vs aggressive
- Resolving Disagreements with Friends hard
Assertive communication builds on basic conflict resolution
- Communication Vocabulary hard
Resolving disagreements requires vocabulary for conflict, resolution, and compromise
- Vocabulary: working with others soft
Understanding what makes a good friend draws on cooperation and inclusion vocabulary
- Expressing Feelings with Words soft
Resolving disagreements benefits from expressing feelings in words
- Triggers and Causes of Feelings soft
Expressing feelings in words benefits from understanding triggers
- Naming Basic Emotions soft
Calming strategies benefit from naming the emotion you're trying to manage
- Words for Big Feelings hard
Calming strategies (calm, breathe, settle) rely on knowing this vocabulary to name and apply the techniques
- Group discussions soft
Resolving disagreements through conversation requires the collaborative speaking skills — staying on topic, building on others' contributions — from Speaking & Listening
- Exploring Ideas Through Talk soft
Conversational skills provide foundation for evaluating viewpoints
- Feeling of not understanding soft
Using talk to explore ideas and speculate requires noticing what you don't yet understand — the comprehension-monitoring habit in a spoken register
- Asking for Help hard
Noticing confusion and acting on it requires already knowing that asking for help is a valid response to being stuck
- Listening and responding soft
SEL listening skills build on curriculum speaking & listening foundations
- Vocabulary: working with others hard
Active listening practice requires understanding the vocabulary of listening, agreeing, and disagreeing respectfully
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- Social Cues and Group DynamicshardAges 11—12