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Your Impact on Others

META
Personal & Social DevelopmentSelf-Awareness|Ages 8—9|ID: mt_rpug2tkYhb

Reflect on how your behaviour lands on others — consider not just what you intended but what the actual impact was on the other person

Mastery Evidence

  • Describe how something they said or did affected someone else — e.g. 'When I didn't include them, they looked upset'
  • Predict what might happen before acting — e.g. 'If I take the last one without asking, they'll feel it's unfair'
  • After a conflict, explain what they could have done differently and what effect that would have had

Assessment Prompt

“Can [child] think about how something they said or did might have felt to the other person — not just what they meant by it, but what the impact actually was?”

Prerequisites4

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  • Teaching It Back soft

    Reflecting on how your behaviour landed on others requires being able to articulate your own thinking and intentions clearly — the self-explanation habit applied to social experience

  • Vocabulary: self hard

    Reflecting on impact on others requires vocabulary of 'impact', 'perspective', and 'reflect'

  • Patterns in Your Own Reactions hard

    Reflecting on the impact of your behaviour on others requires first having noticed patterns in your own reactions — you need self-knowledge before you can examine your social footprint

    • Vocabulary: self hard

      Noticing own patterns requires vocabulary of 'pattern', 'trigger', and 'reflect'

    • Feelings Versus Actions hard

      Noticing patterns in your reactions requires first understanding that feelings and responses are separable — you can only track a pattern once you're aware of the gap between feeling and action

      • Naming Your Feelings hard

        Understanding that feelings and actions are separate requires first being able to name and identify what you are feeling

        • Vocabulary: self hard

          Noticing and naming feelings requires the basic vocabulary of self-awareness and reflection

        • Feeling of not understanding soft

          Naming what you are feeling is emotional comprehension monitoring — the universal habit of noticing what's happening inside applied to emotional experience

          • Asking for Help hard

            Noticing confusion and acting on it requires already knowing that asking for help is a valid response to being stuck

      • Vocabulary: self hard

        Understanding the feelings-actions separation requires vocabulary to distinguish and name each component

    • Spotting Patterns soft

      Noticing recurring patterns in your own reactions is the PSD form of the universal pattern-recognition habit

      • Connecting New & Old Ideas soft

        Spotting patterns across domains is an extension of the habit of connecting new ideas to existing ones

        • Thinking Before Starting hard

          Making connections between new and old ideas requires the habit of activating prior knowledge first

          • Persisting When It's Hard hard

            Activating prior knowledge requires the foundational habit of persistent engagement with new material

  • Feelings Versus Actions soft

    Reflecting on impact requires understanding that your actions were choices, not automatic responses to feelings — the feelings/actions distinction underpins social accountability

    • Naming Your Feelings hard

      Understanding that feelings and actions are separate requires first being able to name and identify what you are feeling

      • Vocabulary: self hard

        Noticing and naming feelings requires the basic vocabulary of self-awareness and reflection

      • Feeling of not understanding soft

        Naming what you are feeling is emotional comprehension monitoring — the universal habit of noticing what's happening inside applied to emotional experience

        • Asking for Help hard

          Noticing confusion and acting on it requires already knowing that asking for help is a valid response to being stuck

    • Vocabulary: self hard

      Understanding the feelings-actions separation requires vocabulary to distinguish and name each component