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Questioning First Impressions

META
Personal & Social DevelopmentSelf-Awareness|Ages 9—10|ID: mt_Mb1JUJmnbX

Notice when your first reading of a social situation might be wrong — your assumptions about why someone acted a certain way are not always facts

Mastery Evidence

  • Pause before reacting to a classmate's behaviour and consider an alternative explanation — e.g. 'Maybe they bumped me by accident, not on purpose'
  • Describe a time they assumed the worst about someone's intention and later found out they were wrong
  • When told about an ambiguous social situation, suggest at least two possible reasons for the other person's behaviour instead of jumping to one conclusion

Assessment Prompt

“If [child] felt sure someone was being unfair or unkind, could they pause and consider whether there might be another explanation for what happened?”

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  • Vocabulary: self hard

    Questioning own assumptions requires precise vocabulary of 'assumption', 'bias', and 'perspective'

  • Patterns in Your Own Reactions soft

    Noticing that your first read of a situation might be wrong requires awareness of your own patterns of assumption and reaction

    • Vocabulary: self hard

      Noticing own patterns requires vocabulary of 'pattern', 'trigger', and 'reflect'

    • Feelings Versus Actions hard

      Noticing patterns in your reactions requires first understanding that feelings and responses are separable — you can only track a pattern once you're aware of the gap between feeling and action

      • Naming Your Feelings hard

        Understanding that feelings and actions are separate requires first being able to name and identify what you are feeling

        • Vocabulary: self hard

          Noticing and naming feelings requires the basic vocabulary of self-awareness and reflection

        • Feeling of not understanding soft

          Naming what you are feeling is emotional comprehension monitoring — the universal habit of noticing what's happening inside applied to emotional experience

          • Asking for Help hard

            Noticing confusion and acting on it requires already knowing that asking for help is a valid response to being stuck

      • Vocabulary: self hard

        Understanding the feelings-actions separation requires vocabulary to distinguish and name each component

    • Spotting Patterns soft

      Noticing recurring patterns in your own reactions is the PSD form of the universal pattern-recognition habit

      • Connecting New & Old Ideas soft

        Spotting patterns across domains is an extension of the habit of connecting new ideas to existing ones

        • Thinking Before Starting hard

          Making connections between new and old ideas requires the habit of activating prior knowledge first

          • Persisting When It's Hard hard

            Activating prior knowledge requires the foundational habit of persistent engagement with new material

  • Your Impact on Others hard

    Questioning your assumptions about social situations requires first having practised the harder skill of seeing yourself from another person's perspective

    • Teaching It Back soft

      Reflecting on how your behaviour landed on others requires being able to articulate your own thinking and intentions clearly — the self-explanation habit applied to social experience

    • Vocabulary: self hard

      Reflecting on impact on others requires vocabulary of 'impact', 'perspective', and 'reflect'

    • Patterns in Your Own Reactions hard

      Reflecting on the impact of your behaviour on others requires first having noticed patterns in your own reactions — you need self-knowledge before you can examine your social footprint

      • Vocabulary: self hard

        Noticing own patterns requires vocabulary of 'pattern', 'trigger', and 'reflect'

      • Feelings Versus Actions hard

        Noticing patterns in your reactions requires first understanding that feelings and responses are separable — you can only track a pattern once you're aware of the gap between feeling and action

        • Naming Your Feelings hard

          Understanding that feelings and actions are separate requires first being able to name and identify what you are feeling

          • Vocabulary: self hard

            Noticing and naming feelings requires the basic vocabulary of self-awareness and reflection

          • Feeling of not understanding soft

            Naming what you are feeling is emotional comprehension monitoring — the universal habit of noticing what's happening inside applied to emotional experience

            • Asking for Help hard

              Noticing confusion and acting on it requires already knowing that asking for help is a valid response to being stuck

        • Vocabulary: self hard

          Understanding the feelings-actions separation requires vocabulary to distinguish and name each component

      • Spotting Patterns soft

        Noticing recurring patterns in your own reactions is the PSD form of the universal pattern-recognition habit

        • Connecting New & Old Ideas soft

          Spotting patterns across domains is an extension of the habit of connecting new ideas to existing ones

          • Thinking Before Starting hard

            Making connections between new and old ideas requires the habit of activating prior knowledge first

            • Persisting When It's Hard hard

              Activating prior knowledge requires the foundational habit of persistent engagement with new material

    • Feelings Versus Actions soft

      Reflecting on impact requires understanding that your actions were choices, not automatic responses to feelings — the feelings/actions distinction underpins social accountability

      • Naming Your Feelings hard

        Understanding that feelings and actions are separate requires first being able to name and identify what you are feeling

        • Vocabulary: self hard

          Noticing and naming feelings requires the basic vocabulary of self-awareness and reflection

        • Feeling of not understanding soft

          Naming what you are feeling is emotional comprehension monitoring — the universal habit of noticing what's happening inside applied to emotional experience

          • Asking for Help hard

            Noticing confusion and acting on it requires already knowing that asking for help is a valid response to being stuck

      • Vocabulary: self hard

        Understanding the feelings-actions separation requires vocabulary to distinguish and name each component

  • Understanding Why soft

    Questioning your assumptions about why someone acted a certain way is elaborative interrogation applied to social cognition — asking 'why do I think this?' rather than accepting the first explanation

    • Teaching It Back hard

      Asking 'why does this work?' requires first being able to explain what you know — interrogation builds on explanation

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